How do you know that I love you?

Everybody has a different criteria to say if someone loves someone else, or how to know.

Most people say it is a feeling. And truth be told, when you actually love someone, it does feel gentle, and expansive, and warm.

But that is not my question, or not really.

How do you know if someone loves YOU?

You definitely can’t feel it. Love is not an energy, even if some guru said that it is. So how do you know?

And here is where your definition, cultural and personal, comes to play.

Landmark Education’s definition is “love is a commitment to love… regardless of behavior, regardless of circumstances”
they also have another one, saying “love is accepting another exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t”

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How to fall in love with yourself… the narrow and strait path to happiness

Why? Why would you want to love yourself?
When you love yourself: you love your life. And that is the closest we know to be a happy person.

And you want to be happy, right? It feels like your birthright. Even though I can’t specifically point at anyone who is happy… it IS your birthright.

Birthright or not birthright, we all want to be happy… even though no one has been able to explain how to become happy… so it seems that it will remain a desire… never to be fulfilled. Hope and hopeless… or resigned is our dominant state.

The closest experience to happiness is contentment, with life, with yourself.
When you love yourself you love your life… but how could you?

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You don’t love yourself. You don’t respect yourself. How could you?

A little understood aspect of integrity that screws up your integrity…

Integrity is between you and you. There are things you do with other people, but integrity is an inside job… if you don’t like what you did, if you don’t think you did a good job, it doesn’t matter what other people think… you are not happy with yourself.

And so far so good, most anyone can get that… but the story doesn’t end here.

Sometimes you do everything you said you would do, you do it on time, you did it complete and thorough, and yet you are not happy with yourself.

What is the reason?

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You want to be free… free to be yourself… but who are you? You don’t know yourself…

My first awakening, rude as it was, was in 1979. I was 32 years old, had won first prize in an architectural competition, and I was in a mental health facility as an inmate.

Depression… I was depressed…

I didn’t know I was an empath, so I have no idea how much of what I felt was mine…

One day in the big circle I said something that got me thrown out of that big circle group.

Next day I was asked to do a test: find out what I like and what I don’t. I spent a lot of time with that test, because, honestly, I didn’t know. I didn’t know what I liked and what I preferred.

They made me retake the test, and I failed again. Holy Mackerel… I had no “I”. I mean I did have an “I” that threw its weight around, that won competitions, that got thrown out of groups, that pontificated and sympathized with people…

And yet there was no solid “I”… an “I” I could return to to be true to myself, to refuel myself, to be free to be myself.

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You want to be free to be yourself… but who are you? You don’t know yourself…

My first awakening, rude as it was, was in 1979. I was 32 years old, had won first prize in an architectural competition, and I was in a mental health facility as an inmate.

Depression… I was depressed…

I didn’t know I was an empath, so I have no idea how much of what I felt was mine…

One day in the big circle I said something that got me thrown out of that big circle group.

Next day I was asked to do a test: find out what I like and what I don’t. I spent a lot of time with that test, because, honestly, I didn’t know. I didn’t know what I liked and what I preferred.

They made me retake the test, and I failed again. Holy Mackerel… I had no “I”. I mean I did have an “I” that threw its weight around, that won competitions, that got thrown out of groups, that pontificated and sympathized with people…

And yet there was no solid “I”… an “I” I could return to to be true to myself, to refuel myself, to be free to be myself.

SOURCE: click to continue reading You want to be free to be yourself… but who are you? You don’t know yourself…

How to fall in love with yourself… the narrow and strait path to happiness

Why? Why would you want to love yourself?
When you love yourself: you love your life. And that is the closest we know to be a happy person.

And you want to be happy, right? It feels like your birthright. Even though I can’t specifically point at anyone who is happy… it IS your birthright.

Birthright or not birthright, we all want to be happy… even though no one has been able to explain how to become happy… so it seems that it will remain a desire… never to be fulfilled. Hope and hopeless… or resigned is our dominant state.

The closest experience to happiness is contentment, with life, with yourself.
When you love yourself you love your life… but how can you?

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How to have self-love? And why? and do narcissists love themselves?

How to have self-love? And why? ((here is another article I wrote about this topic: self love))

I have been struggling with this forever. Somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind there is a huge resistance to it…

I listen in… I don’t even have to put a pillow on my head… I can now hear it, just need to listen.

–You are not perfect… yet
–If you ever loved yourself you would stop striving
–If you loved yourself then you would be selfish

There may be more… these are memes. Mind viruses.
All untruth perpetuated to keep people unhappy, not loving themselves. Not being on their own side.

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How to have self-love? And why? and how narcissists hate themselves?

How to have self-love? And why? ((here is another article I wrote about this topic: self love))

I have been struggling with this forever. Somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind there is a huge resistance to it…

I listen in… I don’t even have to put a pillow on my head… I can now hear it, just need to listen.

–You are not perfect… yet
–If you ever loved yourself you would stop striving
–If you loved yourself then you would be selfish

There may be more… these are memes. Mind viruses.
All untruth perpetuated to keep people unhappy, not loving themselves. Not being on their own side.

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What to do with what you don’t want, don’t like, don’t agree with?

Do you get hooked? People pushing your buttons?Ultimately, every time you encounter something you don’t want, don’t like, don’t agree with, your first reaction is resistance, i.e. not allowing what you don’t like to be.

When you pretend to be different than you are, you are denying who you are… forceful. You don’t allow yourself to be.

Now, what you do in the next moment will decide the rest of your life. Because every moment is the foundation of the next moment. Every moment is a new beginning, and the rest of your life is sitting on moments when you either resist or allow.

I push people’s buttons with regularity. I talk about their favorite guru, I measure their vibration that is vastly different from what they fancy themselves to be. I refuse to “help” them.

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