You live in an illusion… like The Matrix… And you are not happy…

In a workshop yesterday we spent some time defining  REALITY. what must be present, what checkboxes you must tick for what you see to be reality.

It was a first for most people… Reality is one of those words: foggy, undefined… amorphous. In the Starting Point Measurements I measure to what degree you are accurate with your vocabulary, especially with words like ‘reality’. Most people are at or below 10% accuracy.

We came up with four criteria… and there could be more.

Reality:

1. collective: everyone should be able to see it
2. there is only one reality and it’s the same for everyone
3. reality doesn’t change over time. The interpretation may, but what happened happened.

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When something changes… what made it change?

What makes the difference? When something starts to work: what made it suddenly work? Do you know? Chances are: you don’t. And neither do so-called scientists. It is a guess… the guess that makes them seem right. We are wrong 99% of the time. Why?

We do the same thing when something doesn’t work. We guess why… and we are wrong 99% of the time. Why?

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Want to change your future? You’ll need to change your past… Your future will automatically change with it

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.

Why is that significant? And what the heck does that even mean?

The past is the past, and you cannot change it, they say, but if you look in history books, you’ll see that the past does change… depending on the point of view of the historian…

Reality is collective hunch at best… but the visible, perceivable, three-dimensional reality looks different depending on the vantage point… depending on the context… depending on what criteria you examine it by.

In the Playground we re-write your history. We rewrite who you are, historically, who you are for yourself, who you are for others…

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040 – Coaching with Sophie

040- Coaching with Sophie. Listen to episode 039 first. Sophie is interested in you growing, giving you ALL the power. She figures out the disconnect that holds you back. In contrast, most coaches withhold power, so that you keep coming back.

Sophie is guided by the echo… if you have boring-not-boring, or fun-not-fun as an echo to everything, then you need to expand your accurate vocabulary. Not-fun is not real. (Explained in episode 039) If that is your pivot, then Sophie starts working on that, to expand your vocabulary, and her job is to make it a little bit flexible. Change comes from what you do.

There is a saying: You take yourself wherever you go. What are you bringing from the past into your present and future? The inner witness can see it and it is ruthless. Most people can’t see their own attitude, so need it pointed out to them  by a mentor, coach or in a workshop like the Playground.

Anything you see, comes with words already attached. They come together, like the front and back of your hand. There is an  emotional and maybe  intellectual content with the words.  Get curious – what part is reality and what part is the speaking (the already-attached words).

Everything that happened to you, came with a meaning. If you want to change your future, apply for the Playground live workshops, Reclaim email based coaching or private coaching 1-2-1 sessions.

P.S: What Sophie does is unique in the world. Don’t wait around for ten years, because Sophie is old and you will regret missing out.

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040 – Coaching with Sophie

040- Coaching with Sophie. Listen to episode 039 first. Sophie is interested in you growing, giving you ALL the power. She figures out the disconnect that holds you back. In contrast, most coaches withhold power, so that you keep coming back.

Sophie is guided by the echo… if you have boring-not-boring, or fun-not-fun as an echo to everything, then you need to expand your accurate vocabulary. Not-fun is not real. (Explained in episode 039) If that is your pivot, then Sophie starts working on that, to expand your vocabulary, and her job is to make it a little bit flexible. Change comes from what you do.

There is a saying: You take yourself wherever you go. What are you bringing from the past into your present and future? The inner witness can see it and it is ruthless. Most people can’t see their own attitude, so need it pointed out to them  by a mentor, coach or in a workshop like the Playground.

Anything you see, comes with words already attached. They come together, like the front and back of your hand. There is an  emotional and maybe  intellectual content with the words.  Get curious – what part is reality and what part is the speaking (the already-attached words).

Everything that happened to you, came with a meaning. If you want to change your future, apply for the Playground live workshops, Reclaim email based coaching or private coaching 1-2-1 sessions.

P.S: What Sophie does is unique in the world. Don’t wait around for ten years, because Sophie is old and you will regret missing out.

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Everybody teaches you the shadow-work of Plato’s Cave not what casts the shadows.

Confession: You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me

One of your most defining characteristics as a person is, whether you are an optimist or a pessimist.

But the common, and ordinary way to look at those attitudes is inane… ((inane: stupid, moronic)) as in stupid and near-sighted.

Most words are defined with unreality as their focus… when you’ll start to see it, that is when your vocabulary start to hit the level where you can actually see some of reality, not just the “map” of reality.

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The Nature of Reality: the expanded view

In yesterday’s Playground ((new groups are starting continuously…  )) we expanded what can be considered reality by a lot.

So far we have excluded emotions, words, memes, opinions, commentary, meaning… because they are totally personal, and isn’t shared by another, they cannot be part of reality, even if you consider it your personal reality… at your own detriment.

What do I mean, your own detriment?
Your personal opinions are not reality makers… no matter how highly you think of them or how real they feel.

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Reality… the pragmatic approach that makes you happy

Back in the early 70’s I had a live-in boy friend, who was a philosophy student. His father was a famous philosopher, was a Hegel expert.

Hegel, I hear, is one of the most impenetrable philosopher to me. The family, father and three sons, had regular philosophy lessons.

I am not interested in philosophy, not a debating/argumentative person, but lately I am encountering philosophical questions that are at the root of my teaching: teaching you to be in harmony with life, teaching you to live a happy life. ((Here is an interesting philosophical article, that I chewed myself through… not pragmatist at all.))

One of the most important questions here is what is reality, what is real, because all that unhappiness we experience comes from what is not real. ((re·al·i·ty noun

the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.
“he refuses to face reality”
synonyms: the real world, real life, actuality; More
truth;
physical existence
“distinguishing fantasy from reality”
antonyms: fantasy
a thing that is actually experienced or seen, especially when this is grim or problematic.
plural noun: realities

synonyms: fact, actuality, truth

a thing that exists in fact, having previously only existed in one’s mind.

the quality of being lifelike or resembling an original.

synonyms: verisimilitude, authenticity, realism, fidelity, faithfulness

antonyms: idealism

2.
the state or quality of having existence or substance.
“youth, when death has no reality”))

Of course, given our sensory organs and their limitations, the fact that most of reality lives in the invisible, and given our propensity ((noun: propensity; plural noun: propensities

an inclination or natural tendency to behave in a particular way.
“a propensity for violence”
synonyms: tendency, inclination, predisposition, proneness, proclivity, readiness, liability, disposition, leaning, weakness)) for having thoughts that have emotional effect on us, we have NO IDEA what is really real what isn’t.
I am a pragmatist…

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Why aren’t you happy most of the time?

It’s not what you could see, hope to see, it is what you actually see, consciously, that define your actions and therefore your results, your thoughts, your mood…

What you see is called “occurrence” and is made up of a little bit of reality, and an awful lot of words.

Words that explain, words that interpret, words that give meaning of what is actually happening: reality.

What is Reality? Collective hunch at best, but we can define it in a funky way: everything that a just arrived Martian can see! Then stick to that definition, like the seasoned umpire sticks to his… I’ll explain it later…

If I set out a caption contest, everyone would give me a different caption, depending on what they see. And you don’t see things as they are (reality), you see them as YOU are… full of meaning, interpretation, drama, emotions, full of hot air. Reality is simple, a woman standing by the railing of a bridge… or maybe a balcony. No words, no emotions.

This is the job the Playground is about… to carefully peel away the veils (words and marker feelings = emotions) YOU add to reality to make you, ahem… miserable, for the most part.
The three umpires story needs to be told again here…

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How to keep your vibration high at Christmas?

I am sitting at my computer, observing the emails I get, observing people’s behavior.

It seems that the (Christian) world is disappearing into two main fantasy lands, two main unrealities: Christmas, and making cash infusion into their lives.

All horizontal plane, all hurry, all puppets on a string. All based on the unreality of lack. (I will write about this lack issue in another article… it’s important, so I may even email you to let you know…)

Your life is dominated by the separation of the two selves: the higher self is sent into its room for these last days of the year, and the lower self is throwing its weight around.

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