Emotional detox?

Before you can go up, you need to go down! Just like in building a house. Because unless you clear off the “stuff” and then dig deep to know what’s under the top soil, your house will be warped and collapse in a hurry, often while you are building it.

For most of you this is really bad news, because you are hellbent on staying phony happy, phony loving, phony well… delusionally high self-esteem-ed, and you are unwilling to even look at what is real. But what’s real is real, and if you ignore it it will bite you in the a-s-s. No compassion, no looking, just continuing what isn’t working, and never will work is stupid… Here, I said it. Stupid.

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Without strategy your knowledge is useless, and even your actions are ineffective

I wrote this article four years ago. But it fits well into the series on becoming someone who can produce, who can stand out… so read it.
I am doing the 67 steps program… not once, but with every student of mine…
This article is a revelation to me. It’s on the importance of strategy, through what I see about myself and about all of us underachievers. It’s a long article, and slightly disheveled… please forgive the meandering.

I’ve started to get up early in November of last year.

I have noticed on myself that this step (Poor man/rich men) made me look if I am really into growing, or if I am secretly holding back…

How interesting… I have a lot more time, but I am not doing much with it.

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How your past self is creating your future and what you can do about it

There is a Landmark Education distinction that no one gets…

It has a huge overlap with the distinction “you live in a world of your own design”.

This, the “you live in a world of your own design” is somewhat like the Law of Attraction: you attract what you are… but much deeper. It is BEING that, not feeling, or thinking only, though you may feel and think it as well.

But thinking and feeling don’t create being… the reverse, the opposite is true. The thinking and the feeling come from your being.
The overlapping distinction, “you are a clearing for” is almost the same, but has a funnel like feeling to it.

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The curse of understanding… Understanding is the booby prize

If I know you well, your relationship to life is mainly through understanding. Which you either have or not.

When you do, you are happy, even though you are just as unsuccessful living well, being fulfilled as you were before.

When you hear something, when you see something, you try to understand it. When people do something, stupid, smart, hurtful, you want to understand why they did it. Don’t you?

When you read, you try to understand it.

But…

People who are successful, high achievers, they don’t try to understand, they may not understand at all.

What?!

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How to change your future by changing your story

Your stories are boring, repetitive, and rigidly fixed. You tell them the same every time, and that gives you a life of gloom and doom, an ever narrowing, ever more impoverished version of the Life you could have.

This article is about blowing some life into your story, so you can have more life.
“Know something, sugar? Stories only happen to people who can tell them.” – Allan Gurganus
Gurganus is right. The truth happens to everyone, but stories only happen to people who can tell them. And tell them well…

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What if two fairy tales could turn your life around, so you could love your life?

The two fairy tales that give you your life

I am running three developmental courses right now. Developmental courses and personal conversations are:

How I inform Source on what needs to get done and what’s in the way of humans being willing and able to be all they can be;
How I test ideas, theories, activators, methods and such;
How I find out what people can do, what they can’t do. What they can learn; and what they cannot learn because it is not a skill, it’s a talent, a gift.
How I get great ideas for articles, like the idea of the two fairy tales.

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Emotional Intelligence: When you suppress half of reality, you need to suppress all of it…

I spent two hours on technical support this morning. My emails are not delivered… and that is a big problem in a business…

The lovely support person, Claire, was knowledgeable, but here anxiety was so strong, I got dizzy from it.

Even though I don’t know her from Adam, I took it on myself to coach her… I felt that she was anxious because it takes time to do what she does, and she had to make me wait here and there.

That stressed her out… I assured her that I have no problem waiting, that she was fine, that she was competent, and she didn’t need to hurry.
She calmed down, and I could breathe again.
Emotional Intelligence. I encouraged her to call me any time… after all I can’t expect someone to be able to do it for themselves… without any training.

This is an unfortunate nature of reality…

Here is another example. One of the participants in my programs shared that until I asked him to experience his distaste, he’d felt numb for two months.

This is a great catch. Even though I am an empath, I don’t always identify the beingness of a person accurately, astutely, because the feeling is alien or unknown to me. I don’t experience numb outside of a dentist’s office…

But truth be told, half of all people who ask for their vibrational reading, feel numb. They hold their breath lest they feel something they don’t want to feel.

Starting with Christianity that “blazed new vistas to misery by saying that even your thoughts are sins… culminating in “positive thinking” and “law of attraction” bullsh*t, humanity is now in a perpetual state of numbness, where even feeling a bad feeling, thinking a bad thought is considered BAD and need to be suppressed.

So, what do you do with something that is there but you don’t want to know about? You suppress it. Or you try to fix it. Or you try to overpower it with ‘positive’ emotions and ‘positive’ thoughts.
Result: reduced intellect, numbness, stupidity, deadness, illness, a meaningless life not worth living.
I remember suppressing my anger from an early age.

I was about three years old, and I had reason to be angry. But then my newborn sister died, and I put two and two together: I killed her and it was my anger that killed her. Children’s logic. Very powerful.

I used everything I could put my hands on to not feel.

At a certain point I took 10 Valiums a day. 5 mg each? You can kill a cow with that much Valium. I still could not sleep.

When I was in Israel I found a book that taught people how to release anger. It took me many years to allow it to be released, but I have released it.

When I am angry today, it is a fresh crop… not some old suppressed anger trying to find a release.

The reason it took so long, because anger is terrifying. It is like sitting on a volcano: once it erupts, you know you can’t control it. So I let a little bit out of the bag, so to say, and dealt with it.

And that is the way of releasing every bad feeling from its

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World View: are you trying to build a life on a foundation of misery?

If you ever decided that you wanted to live your life in a particular way, successful, joyful, productive, fulfilling, you would want to CHOOSE a world view, a world view that COULD create the perfect foundation for that type of life, the life of your choosing.

But you never decided… and you never chose. You have a worldview, or maybe a worldview has you…

World view is a particular interpretation of life, of creation, of power, of choice, of freedom. Of other people, of nature. Of what is important and what isn’t. Of what is agreed upon and what isn’t.

Depending on the world view, only certain actions and certain things can be present. It’s like a stage in a play: you can’t put there stuff that doesn’t belong. That doesn’t have a role… On the stage, if there is a gun there, you can be sure it will be used during the story. I read that somewhere about Chekhov’s plays…

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You can’t fix being human

You can’t fix being human

..that is one of the disappointing things you learn when you do work with me. I won’t feed you baloney like “you are a spiritual being having a human experience…” and other garden variety horse manure.

The other half-sentence is just as disappointing: “you can’t get out of this life alive…”

These two half-sentences address 70% of the popular delusions of humanity.

When you internalize these truly, when you start to be energized by them then your vibration will jump 50 points or more.

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Why and how the hit-bottom method works? And how you can alter the future with it…

In numerology, each number has a special meaning… and even the components of your final destiny number…

My main number is 7, my secondary number is 4.

I like 4. Four symbolizes a chimney: there is only one way to go: up.

Most numbers have sideways moves… and that is what most people do to avoid growing. To avoid what it takes, work, pain, telling the truth… avoiding these at all cost… even if the cost is everything and anything they ever wanted…

So as a coach, I have to take them to a magical turning point: I need to force them to hit bottom. If they let me… 😦

I had two workshops yesterday… And in the second, two of my participants volunteered to declare that they hit bottom.

Declare.

What was the magical ingredient? They got confronted with their numbers… What numbers? I’ll get to it… patience…

Any numbers that show how you are doing will be good.

I can measure a whole slew of numbers, by connecting to you, to Source, and muscle test while I am connected.

I can measure numbers about your health… any organ, any process, no problem.

I can measure your emotional state… in numbers.

I can measure if what you are saying is true, false, and whether you can tell the difference.

So in yesterday’s Playground session, I asked the participants to put something at stake… get conscious about why they are in the course, so they can start to consciously generate their participation… instead of hoping that what they do will produce the result they hope to get.

The majority of people live in hope, especially because they have no idea what to measure, how to measure it, and therefore they are not able to grow anything… whatever you cannot measure, you cannot improve it Lord Kelvin said that. Who was Lord Kelvin? Google it… he was a famous physicist.

So yesterday I got a dose of that: I muscle tested for people in the course what is the potential value they can get based on their participation… thus far.

The range of potential values went from one million dollars down to 60 thousand dollars. Same course, different level of participation.

The $60K people (two) got suddenly waken up to the fact that what they have been doing, how they have been being wasn’t working… And one of them declared hitting bottom, and a student with a $100K value also did.

What happens when you declare hitting bottom? You start a whole new life, that is what happens. You abandon the old way, and make room for a new way.

Now, there is a tricky part: if your word has no power, if your integrity is too low, your declaration is an expression of a wish… No true breaking with the past.
Why and how the hit-bottom method works?

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