Without integrity nothing works… your capacities will turn off, one by one

I got a good question from a client who can’t or won’t keep her Sight capacity on for any length of time.

She asked: How quickly is the capacity switching off after you re-activate it? Is it switching off before I get the chance to even use it?

I looked, muscle tested a few ideas, and started to see what’s happening.
A good question can trigger a lot of looking and if you have The Sight capacity, a lot of seeing.
A saw that seeing what there is to see is very confronting, because now you know you are full of crap. so as soon as the ego sees the light on, it turns it off

What do I mean?

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Find the Growth Method That Matches Your Personality

There are two big categories of humans from the aspect of personal growth.

sheep, victim, the effect… not in action, hoping, praying, visualizing, etc.
the climber

Climber can be someone who climbs the Tree of Life… and can be the type of person I want to talk about in this article. The politician. The ruthless user. The win-lose type of person. The either/or person who cannot even imagine, tolerate, or stomach the you AND me model of thinking.

Why do you want to know them? Because you need to know evil intimately to fight evil. Both outside and inside.

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The myth that if you are better than…

The myth that if you are better than the average, if you are better than the other guy/gal then you are OK…

If you knew how others view you, if you knew how you rank as a human… really, you’d be up in arms, shouting “bloody murder!” because you are delusional. You can’t see the other, you can’t see yourself, and you definitely can’t see yourself the way others see you… so any and all negative feedback is a surprise and an insult.

But if you are comparing yourself to another 99 percenter… whether they are average, below average, or above average, you are comparing yourself to something irrelevant…

Scientists, statisticians say humanity and its characteristics, intelligence, achievement, health, etc. can be described with the bell curve, where they focus on the average…

But if you ask anyone if they want to be average, they mostly say no… and they fancy themselves as above average.

But even if you are above average, you are comparing yourself against people who you don’t respect… who are miserable, unproductive, undisciplined, liars, cheaters, like yourself.

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Today’s solution is tomorrow’s bigger problem… if you are not connected to Consciousness

I have updated this post… clarified some things, so read it again…

Humans, YOU, want to fix things…

Fixing is forceful, and narrow cone of vision.

Fixing is low consciousness…
Today’s solution is tomorrow’s bigger problem.
Your identity, the things you are known for, your typical behavior have all been fixes… solution to some perceived problem and now you are like a puppet on a string… powerless, inauthentic, and incapable of being happy, peaceful, joyful, and fulfilled.

1. For example, as a kid, I experienced getting hurt because I trusted someone… so I decided to never ever ever ever trust anyone again… I became fiercely independent… in everything.

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Today’s solution is tomorrow’s bigger problem.

Humans, YOU, want to fix things…

Fixing is forceful, and narrow cone of vision.

Today’s solution is tomorrow’s bigger problem.

Your identity, the things you are known for, your typical behavior have all been fixes… solution to some perceived problem and now you are like a puppet on a string… powerless, inauthentic, and incapable of being happy, peaceful, joyful, and fulfilled.

For example, I experienced getting hurt because I trusted someone… so I decided to never ever ever ever trust anyone again… I became fiercely independent… in everything.

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Are you stingy or you are in survival with barely enough energy to DO your life?

You are stingy with others… You don’t have energy to be kind, caring, supportive… Or if you do, maybe your family and friends are not kind or supportive to you… Here is the why…

To be kind, etc… you need an abundance of surplus energy. If your body is in survival mode, the first things that NEED to go are the nice things for others… then for yourself. Some dogooders reverse the order…
People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds. ~ Carl R. Rogers
That, being wonderful as a sunset, includes yourself, but…

You may be able to imagine yourself looking at others this way… but looking at yourself as perfect, wonderful, and no need to change?

Rarely if ever…

Occasionally I stand in front of my bathroom mirror and I like what I see. Occasionally. One minute out of thousands a week.

So why are we unable to even imagine that we are like the sunset… or the sunrise: my favorite.

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Why can’t you learn, and how could you? The single most important factor…

Going from smart to intelligent…
In this article I am biting off more than I can chew… So it will probably make more sense to people who are in my programs, and will make sense once I learn how to speak/write it coherently.

What’s missing? Why are so many smart people who are less than successful?

This is going to be a series.

This part deals with learning… The brainstate conducive to learning…
Then, in coming parts, we’ll talk about why you can’t learn something, even though you are smart…
Why you can’t use something that you thought you learned or knew…
And what you can do so you can go from smart to intelligent.

Intelligence is the ability to get results with the knowledge you have… as opposed to smart: able to get a lot of knowledge…

I just finished the Learning how to learn course

Here are some observations and thoughts that will raise that course’s truth value to 60%. Without these, it is 30%. Not bad… but not very good either.

Important distinctions of the course: (there are more, but these are the most important barriers to learning.)
Focused state learning vs. fuzzy state learning
Like with everything, there are distinctions that are in the visible domain of reality, and distinctions that are invisible until they are distinguished…

In the visible domain, the difference is your brain’s attitude about the material, the brain’s approach.

In order to get into the focused state, the brain needs to first force itself to exclude everything else, so it narrows your cone of vision, your cone of hearing, it tries to ignore your back itching, your butt hurting on the chair… because it is HELLBENT to get what you are intending to get.

I used to get into this mode occasionally, especially when I saw a tutorial, a questionnaire to fill in, a quiz… fear.
Fear of making an ass of myself.
And it was, predictably, a self-fulfilling prophecy: in that focused state I could not get the question right (the context), so my answers were predictably wrong. I didn’t understand the tutorial… I got dumber than dumb. For a long time I really thought I was dumb.

I had a lot of punishments in my life.

At some point, since I started doing this work, and connecting to Source much of the day, this attitude towards questions and tutorials has gotten a whole lot better. It is still there… until I feel my feelings, feel the fear, and relax into it.
So what is there for people who cannot learn — despite their efforts to learn?
This is the question I had on my mind when I did some back and forth with one of my students who hasn’t been able to learn the foundation of the Playground course, despite her spending a lot of efforts to do so.

Our exchange ended with me saying “it took me years to get it… so there is no hurry”, and her answering “Oh dear!
Well, at least that lessens the fear of falling behind…”
Another one of the distinctions of the Learning how to learn course is “project

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Overwhelm, survival mode, resignation, what is the connection? And un-managed, how they lead to becoming dead man walking?

I had an important and eye-opening insight today. A looking back…

Let me tell you the story so you get the fact that the likelihood of me ever discovering this was between none and zero.

It began some 30 years ago when I was a magazine publisher. Every time a magazine was already in the street, I went to my computer and cleaned up the space, I archived everything that was said and done, made room for the new issue. I did the same thing in the office.

I called this time and energy consuming step “cleaning from the root”, or alternatively “preparing for a new harvest”…

My life was organized, orderly, I was thin, vibrant, beautiful, and OK.

Then something happened. There is always something that happens before this process begins to really ramp up… but truth be told, it really begins around age 3… hidden for quite a while.

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Your soul correction and how you react to things… like being abandoned in a car as a child

One of the most interesting things to track is how much of the interpretation of an original incident depends on the person’s soul correction.

OK, let me explain: we come into the world with a supposedly blank slate… We don’t know anything, and we need to learn everything.

And yet, we seem to have a certain bend… as if humanity had sub-species…

Why? I don’t know. This is pretty much the only reason I think there is an Original Design… from where it comes, I have no idea. Maybe we ARE in a created world… a whole lot more sophisticated than what the Bible sets up…

Anyway, every person is born with a soul correction. It is not the soul that needs correction… it is the person. The soul is perfect… I think.

My soul correction is “Forget Thyself” and it is an attitude where I place myself above everyone… For me to ask for anything, anyone, anything, including Life, Source, etc. is DOING MY SOUL CORRECTION.

I don’t think the soul correction can be ever completed… it is like a slope in reality… it needs to be compensated for, no matter where you are on the evolutionary scale.

There are all kinds of other aspects to a human… the Zodiac, the Human Design… all come from the time and date of birth…

Why? I don’t know.

Now… to my topic for this article: similar incidents happen to many children: they find themselves abandoned.

It is their interpretation… or the truth… for a child 15 minutes that they didn’t know was going to happen feels like forever.

And not surprisingly, given what I just said before, a child interprets what happened differently, and reacts to it differently.

And then live their life out of that interpretation and the fix they invented… as if that were the only way to be.

I get daily emails from digg.com and some of my inspiration for the article come from there…

There was a photo article about dogs alone in cars… And the accompanying text by and about the photographer, saying:

“I don’t know when or where or for how long, possibly at the age of four, perhaps outside a supermarket, probably fifteen minutes only,” recounts Usborne. “The details don’t matter. The point is that I wondered if anyone would come back. The fear I felt was strong: in a child’s mind it is possible to be alone forever.”

While he went on to live a happy childhood despite this isolated experience, Usborne decided to revisit his fear of being alone and unheard in an evocative photo series titled The Silence of Dogs in Cars. Having a deep affinity for animals, he recreates the sentiment of abandonment that affects everyone, people and animals alike.

Now, I have students, relatives, myself, who had similar experiences.

1. Mine: I was abandoned, like everyone, in my imagination. My decision to “failing to be loved, failing to be wanted” was to be a “I’ll do it myself” person who will not even ask others to do thing, even if it is their job.

For example, my toilet is leaking. I a

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Strong emotions or curiosity… choose!

I have found that bringing curiosity to life, especially things that normally would cause you strong emotions, can counteract the narrowing of your cone of vision, narrowing of your intelligence, narrowing of your emotional flexibility… while destroying life where you are, where I am… inside me.

Let me say it again: bringing curiosity to things can counteract with misery, upset, anxiety, frustration, anger, despair, resignation, sadness, depression… the whole never ending pool of negative emotions.

It takes training.

Our access, humans’ access to reality, nowadays, is our emotions… instead of our feelings (sensory perceptions and observation) and our reasoning capacity.

Instead of getting a first hand view of reality, we, humans, inside the cave of our minds, we interact with the shadows reality casts… and we are jerked through upheavals by things that aren’t even real.

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