Judge, Pre-judge people? Pre-judging is a cognitive bias… how to avoid making stupid value judgments…

Our prejudices often rob us from seeing what is in front of us.

Prejudice is a simple two-part word: pre-judge. Meaning: judge from some simple criteria, like the color of someone’s skin, the strength of their grammar, their clothing, or whether they curse or not.

And then we stop looking, because the judgment is already there: this or that.
Pre-judging is a cognitive bias, it is the mind’s attempt to save you time. It is accurate for our purposes of survival, about 60% of the time. 40% of the time it is inaccurate, and leads to stupid, self-defeating decisions.
Most people get married based on a the 40%, hire people, buy stuff, or not buy, reject perfectly good matches.

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Even if the movement starts in the direction of hell… it can take you to heaven.

As you can see, I republished one of the most important articles I have ever published.

What is important in the article is the insight. It is an insight about a life well lived. Einstein said:
“If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut.” ((This quote says that being successful means being useful in three important ways.

x and y are simply about having a life. The more good things you do, the more you get paid, and the more successful you are at life. Play is fun. z is important because speech is so common. As a lever of influence, it has a high impact on your sum total of usefulness.

z means it’s hard to say something useful: talking is useless by default. Taken literally, it means that you can only become less successful by talking. Talk only hurts, it never helps. Taken as a poetic license, it means that the odds of saying something useful are against you.

Talking sends information into the world. The conversation is overtly about the things in the world, but covertly about the speaker. Even assuming that the talk about the world is useful to the listener, the covert message about yourself is noise, vanity, or masochism.

Speakers who leak vanity risk being preyed upon by good listeners with an agenda. Those who leak masochism invite others to play ‘Kick Me’. Even if the covert channel sends just noise, it is diluting the useful information on the overt channel. Therefore, talk is best reserved for short windows of opportunity to put in a key bit.

An experienced conversationalist from a healthy social environment tends to be short and sweet. Highly successful people are known for what they did, rather than what they said.))
The insight is that you can use the laws of physics in your life to succeed.
We can use Newton’s first law to achieve great things, to live a life we were meant to live, to live the life Life meant for us to live.

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Taking you where Life wants you to go … Updated because it is important

This article distinguishes the most important thing you need to know about growing.
Without growing you are dying. Every minute of every day.
Survival is dying.

The purpose of life is living…. not dying.
Most people I know are either stuck or are coasting… They are going noplace… fast or slow… it is unsatisfying and yet… starting to move in the direction Life wants you to go, or even where you want to go is near impossible… Just look at most people…

This article will reveal a secret… the secret of taking your life where Life wants you to go.

I have been clear that Life wants each of us to go someplace… not necessarily physical, not necessarily to a life-purpose, and yet it is a place. A non-physical place.

When I ask myself where Life wants me to go, after the almost immediate fear-reflex, I feel that I am where Life wants me to be. Doing what Life wants me to do. Afraid that I am not going to succeed.

But then again, Life is not a life-coach who talks you to death with goal setting, and specific, measurable results, and milestones, and bold audacious actions…

Thank god, because if it came to goal setting, I would be a slacker…

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Custom Activators, Clarity, or How To Get Out Of Your Rut? Clue: Changing habits


“The thought of getting out of this hole, this interminable rut, going around in circles, doing the same thing over and over again, is positively thrilling!!!!” – A Student in the Soul Correction Workshop
We had our first session of the Soul Correction workshop yesterday. When I got off the call, I realized that I didn’t record it correctly: the audio settings were off, and there was no sound.

I was bummed out. I have, earlier, distinguished, that what keeps me from winning in life is a habit, I can describe better by telling you what I don’t do: I don’t look before I leap.

Not checking if the audio settings were correct, is one symptom, one expression of this issue.

I am working on this new “thing”, custom activators, and the custom activator I am creating for myself, is going to be the first of its kind.

Until this moment I’ve thought it was going to be called: “Look before you leap…” but because I wasn’t quite sure, I was letting it gather some energy by itself.

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How I raised my vibration: my secret method revealed.


Kindness reveals the diamond…

Change must begin with clarity of where you are… precision, exactness, all of which you and I have been trying to avoid.

So we make up all kinds of stuff, including the butterfly analogy. After all if you need to go through transformation to become a butterfly, you don’t have to be responsible for any of it… it is a miracle transformation, it is out of your hands.

In this article I’ll show you how I change, from a totally different place, the place of conscious change, where you don’t need a miracle, you don’t need voodoo, where you need work… (Oh no Sophie, not work again!? lol)
I will show you the work that brings out the diamond, the shine, the beauty in us… the best work anyone can ever want or wish for.

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Clarity is power, but meaningless and powerless on the Tree of Knowledge.

But on the Tree of Life clarity is the main component of having a winning life.

Clarity, on the Tree of Life, is finding the cause of an effect… Once you know the cause, you can play with it like a musical instrument: you can change out of the cause, you can modulate.

You have yourself and your life tamed sufficiently that you can safely say: I have the power… I call the shot.

On the Tree of Knowledge you cannot see the cause. It is hidden under an avalanche of feelings, “science”, words.

That is the purpose of the Tree of Knowledge, by the way.

And because you have no idea, anything or anyone can fool you.

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You hope to be rescued, but you would die before you would ask for help… go figure

As I am observing my students they belong to two very distinguishable camps.
People who ask for help, and people who don’t.
I myself belong to the second camp. But my reasons for not asking help is different from yours… lol. Maybe.

When I look back at my childhood, I must have decided really early on that asking for help is useless. At best they say “go away”, or who do you think you are… At the worst they beat you up.

And I could use a lot of help. Especially in learning. Especially since by brain damage almost 20 years ago.

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How reliable is your judgment? Are you judgmental or astute? but is he worth a damn?

To judge something accurately, you need a lot of skills, spiritual capacities, including seeing the big picture, etc. You need to be able to tell similar things apart. You need to be astute. You need to be able to answer the question “But is he worth a damn?” ((The originator of that question, But is he worth a damn? Tai Lopez looks for credentials, because they are easy to check. But when I go and check the truth value of the books he recommends, I find anything from 3% to 9%… and that is not worth a damn.

Treating Tai’s steps, or what his teachers say, or what the books say as the truth will trap you on the Tree of Knowledge… and yet. And yet I recommend that you do the 67 steps… But do it the way you take a shower. You take a shower, you get wet, you towel off, and you move on. But getting wet has a lot to do with a good life…

What? It is hard to say, but being exposed to a lot more of the world than you would sitting on your ass, doing the same things day in and day out, will slowly and surely allow you to be more, see more, and be a lot more astute… because you can see a whole lot more. Will it make you astute? No… by itself: no.

But by doing things that test what you learn… hell yeah… at least in the area of life where you are testing. So yes, I recommend it.

I myself became a lot more astute by doing it… I am asking a lot more questions, and questions that are taking me to the edge of human knowledge… maybe into the “unfolded” part of the Holographic Universe.))

As I have said before, if you are a midget you see the knees of people, and you will make your judgments from the knees…

If you judge people to feel better about yourself, or to place yourself above them… you are fooling no one except people who are on the same level as you are, intellectually, spiritually, and in emotional maturity.

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Life is for living. But what does that mean?

I have come to say: “I don’t see how it can be done”

It’s taken me many years… and diligent practice.

My soul correction is arrogance… Knowing it all. And being rigid about it.

In the olden days I used to say: “There is no way”, or “I can’t…” or “It can’t be done”

The difference between the two attitudes is: one is arrogant, the other is not. It has taken me this long, because letting go of what you know, letting go of knowing that you see the truth… is painful.

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Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony

If you look, carefully, now you know why you are not happy.

Here is another quote: People get married because they want their lives witnessed. When your life is witnessed you feel alive… I was par phrasing the Susan Sarandon character’s words in “Shall we Dance?”

The best way to make sure you are on the path to happiness… is actually to be in a coaching program.

In my 67 step coaching program I witness your life.

Obviously, if you don’t care what I see: if you don’t care that I see that there is no harmony in what you think, what you say and what you do, then it is not really doing much for you…

If you don’t care…

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