Your core strength and spiritual growth

I am 70 years old… or to be exact, will be in two more months.

The biggest concern for older people is falling. Falling and not be able to get up. Or break a bone. My sister in law broke her thigh bone…

So many communities across the United States offer free exercise classes to older people to make us more self-reliant and not fall easily.

The exercises are directed at strengthening the core and the leg muscles.

I am mentioning this, because the work of becoming a human being needs a strong core. Otherwise one may get dizzy, scared, or fall.

Just like in real life.

What keeps you from having a strong core?

1. Fear. Fear makes you narrow your cone of vision and either start pretending you are blind, or fixate at your feet… missing where you are going.

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A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?

The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.

Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The “Spirit” gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up… words don’t come close to express it.

When I work with people on their life’s purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.

When I speak your purpose, as I see it, I hear you being hooked, being moved. Then you get off the call, and turn it into mundane… money, sex, or such other stuff, that makes life and you stuck in the mud.

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The fear of trusting… This is why you can’t ask and won’t get help from above

Update: Now that many of my students have managed to enter father-child, the only place where real love can be experienced… some of them get scared. The voice, IT, is telling them that they will not be loved, if they stay on that high place….

This article, hopefully, is going to be useful… if for no other reason, is to see that TRUST is countered by FEAR, and that the VOICE is on the side of FEAR.

One of the hard wired characteristic of a human is the insistence on making their own decisions.
But, we often don’t have the tools, the knowledge, the means to make sound decisions, and yet… we keep on insisting.
The seed level of this characteristic is the fear to trust. Anyone, any time, anywhere. We don’t even trust ourselves, but we trust others even less.

It’s a learned behavior. We learned that people have hidden agendas, that people are not honest, their real intentions and their pretend intentions are not the same… so they can’t be trusted.

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Check in with yourself. If it is about winning… you have already lost.

Life is not about winning. Life is about how you play…

It is impossible to win. Life is not a winnable game. And wanting to win is setting you up for misery.
So what is this “wanting to win?”
It is an agenda. And like any agenda, it creates a narrow cone of vision, and a forceful ignorance of anything outside of that narrow cone.

This results in three things:

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What does this video, rescuing a drowning baby elephant, can teach us?

Some people, a mighty few, make things happen… some watch/observe it happen, and the majority asks: ‘what the heck happened?’ or alternatively has a story that is inaccurate. Because it is not that easy to see what actually happened…

Yesterday I saw a video of how two mature elephants rescued a baby elephant that fell into a pool.

I watched the short video several times. It is not so easy to see exactly what they did… But after 3-4 times, maybe even more, I saw exactly.
The mother was trying to do mother things… ineffective… had she continued doing that line of actions, the baby would have died.

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Energized water solution for your vacation

It is summer, and many of you go on vacation.

The question is: how can you take your energized water system with you.

Well, you can take the audio source, you can take the headphones. The rest, the water itself, and the container will have to be invented…

My suggestion is that you go to a camping store and buy a collapsible water bottle or a water-sac.
Campers need it in the woods. They hang the water sac on a tree…

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How could you become someone who is learning, growing, and living a life worth living?

I have had people, ex-students, who tried the 67 steps and decided that it is not the way to learn… no matter what Sophie says… They knew better.

I could not put my finger on the attitude. I could see that it didn’t work, I could see that it didn’t serve them, but I didn’t have a word for it.

Until today, through listening to Step 4 of the 67 Steps.

This step, step 4 is about learning through mentors. Mentors are teachers, but not classroom teachers. One-on-one instruction where the teaching is tailored to you. Where you learn through osmosis. You emulate their whole being, how they approach issues… it is largely nonverbal. ((By the way, it’s taken me 16 months to seriously consider picking a mentor or two… to emulate. In every other area I had some results… in this one I just got to considering it… this is an 18 month schedule, not instant results…))

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How babysitting your children, your business, even yourself alters how you feel

Context is decisive…

I found a great article that described what has been the most important spiritual shift in my career as a teacher and a coach.

I trust that you’ll be able to see how it applies to you and how it can transform your life, and create a spiritual shift for you too.

Here is the story:
The Day I Pretended to Babysit My Own Kids
By Chana Bitton

Emotionally exhausted. This is how I was beginning to feel on a regular basis. Everything my kids did that wasn’t “perfect” got on my nerves. If they argued with each other, I yelled. If they didn’t listen to me the first time I asked, I yelled. If they had a complaint about dinner, I got annoyed . . . and yelled. Why was I reacting this way? Why couldn’t I enjoy my job as a mother, and see the beauty in raising a family?When did parenting become such a burden?

It was something I thought about regularly, because I knew that the way I was being was not the kind of parent I wanted to be. I wanted to rediscover the enjoyment in parenting, but I needed to dig deep to figure out how to find it again.

One night during bedtime, as I was putting my 6-year-old to sleep, I began having the same agitated feeling. She kept asking questions, not listening, squirming—basically, being a normal 6-year-old. I hated the way I was feeling, and decided to play a little mind game with myself.

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Why I need to be some kind of criminal to really help you

Yesterday I listened to step 4 of the 67 steps. I heard something… and turned the audio off. I didn’t want to forget what I heard.

This is the step where Tai talks about the DNA that makes us able to learn, no, makes us have to learn to become human.

He uses language as an example.

Every human has the capacity to learn their mother tongue so they can communicate with the people around them. But there is no separate gene for English and Serbian, for example. There is the capacity to learn language.

And so is with hundreds of abilities.

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How do you know if you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset? And how do you get out of the fixed mindset, really?

I doesn’t matter what you think you believe.

I am starting to notice that what you say you believe is one thing, what you actually believe is expressed a lot more truthfully in your actions and in your reactions.

One of the most useful distinctions I learned from Hungarian author, Margoczi, is the distinction of “devaluing of your ‘I'”

If you have an “I” that can be devalued, then it must be fixed.
If you compare your “I” with anyone else’s, and you are higher and you feel smug about it, or your “I” is lower and you feel bad about it, then you have a fixed mindset.

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