Everything You Ever Wanted Is Coming To You Through Other People.

Henry David Thoreau wrote
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.
What is the meaning of desperation?
Desperate means “having lost all hope.” … If you are in a desperate situation, it means things are really, really bad. Desperate… Both desperate and despair come from the same Latin verb as despair.

I remember clearly what that is like. It wasn’t long ago where I was wholly resigned and therefore had nothing to look forward to…

It was about 10 years ago that I had a turning point.

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How to set yourself up for winning in the 20-day skill-learning challenge?

OK, confession time: I have never inspired a challenge, and I am not exceptionally good at doing anything like this, but…

But with the limited knowledge and experience I have, let me share with you some of the ideas of winning, and some of the reasons for failing I know will come up:
1. it is your life. It is your 20 days. You start when you are ready to start. And don’t forget: you do it for yourself!
How do you know you are ready?

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Where attention goes, energy flows… but can you direct your attention by your thoughts?

How much control do you have over your attention?

Why that is important?

Two reasons:

1. where attention goes, energy flows. But… as you’ll find out, not all attention is equal…
2. While you are “paying” attention to one thing, you are ignoring everything else.

Attention is a single pointed arrow… it is not very wide cone either.

Your cone of vision is already narrow… why? Because fear narrows it… automatically.
And fear also urges you to fix what seems to be threatening you… by avoiding it, or by doing something drastic to it.

What happens when you see something that seems to be threatening you? Essentially what happens is that you take that “thing” completely out of context… because in your puny cone of vision you cannot see the larger picture, you cannot see the context.

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Why is a dog happy and you are not?

I bet the title of previous article, “Are you a taker” got instantly translated in your head to “Are you bad?”

What you don’t know is that if you are not allowed to take, you won’t be allowed to give… the ultimate stingy… If you are not allowed to live according to your nature, you will do cartwheels to avoid it… even if and even when your nature would take you where you want to go.

There is a major difference between you and your dog. Your dog is happy, and you are not.

It is worth looking into that, because all the psychology articles, all the books, and all the therapy sessions will be un-needed once you get what it is about you that makes you unhappy.

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Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?

Life is best lived where what you want for yourself is a side effect.

I know, for half of humanity that sounds like liberal nonsense… but this is how life becomes the most enjoyable, and maybe the most “life-earning” as well, in spite of it being counter intuitive.

And this is true in every area of life…

I can’t write a better article on this than Zat Rana here.

What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits… And I can share how this… getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.

Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other “ancient” teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah.

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Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?

Life is best lived where what you want for yourself is a side effect.

I know, for half of humanity that sounds like liberal nonsense… but this is how life becomes the most enjoyable, and maybe the most “life-earning” as well, in spite of it being counter intuitive.

And this is true in every area of life…

I can’t write a better article on this than Zat Rana here.

What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits… And I can share how this… getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.

Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other “ancient” teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah.

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“What you would seem to be, be really.” Russian Proverb

Your elbow is close, yet you can’t bite it… another Russian proverb…

Your mind says: I am not enough… it has been saying it for a long time… but nothing has changed.

It is Monday Morning and I am already not enough.

I just read the Monday Morning Memo, and it answered my nagging question: why am I not more successful? And answered it in a way that turned me into a heap of meat: I can’t do what it tells people to do… put sentences the way he says…

I can’t. I’ll never amount to much… maybe it’s time to pack it in.

I am pondering what he teaches, I am pondering my inability, I am pondering how I can live, have the audacity to live, now that I know.

I am pondering, as always, while I play Freecell, a computer card game. A completely impossible setup solves itself… I win the game.

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“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”

…poet and filmmaker Jean Cocteau said.

1. “There are truths that you can only say after having won the right to say them.”
2. “True realism consists in revealing the surprising things that habit keeps covered and prevents us from seeing.”
3. “What the public criticizes in you, cultivate. It is you.”
4. “You should always talk well about yourself! The word spreads around, and in the end, no one remembers where it started.”
5. “We shelter an angel within us. We must be the guardians of that angel.

IF THE ANGEL DECIDES TO COME . . .

“If the Angel decides to come it will be because you have convinced her, not by tears, but by your humble resolve to be always beginning; to be a beginner.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
I sound like a broken record… but I must share when I can see more of what I need to see to train you to raise your vibration.

I have been seeing (concluding) that there may be a linchpin type of lock, measured in your starting point measurements… #11. To what degree you think of yourself:

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Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?

What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase… because the product or program delivered on its promises?

Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff… or the accent of the coach… so they are happy. With what? one might ask…

I wonder how much these people value themselves and their money… My guess is: not much.

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What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you?

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing it? And putting it to work in your life.

The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.

You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you’ll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this new thing… that at present you probably have never thought of.

You are smart… right? Well, no. Unless your life shows that, let’s consider that you may be smart, but your actions aren’t.

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