Emotional intelligence is the best known intelligence of those that aren’t measured in the IQ tests, but there are many different intelligences… Emotional intelligence is spoken of because that is something everyone needs and everyone needs YOU to have it.
In your starting point measurements, eight out of the 12 measures depend on your emotional intelligence, and if I want to be quite truthful, even your health number depends on your EQ as well. So in a roundabout way I test your emotional intelligence.
If you find yourself upset by what other people say, or what you hear they say, etc. chances are the problem is with you, namely with your ability to consider that what they say says more about them than about you.
If you think of yourself all the time, if you think things are personal, then you haven’t become an adult emotionally.
SOURCE: click to continue reading Emotional intelligence is the best known, but there are many different intelligences…
Since the last article, I’ve kept on poking at simplicity… and the idea of decision making came up… fast and furious. I didn’t expect it.
Like everything else, this rabbit hole is a mile deep, but I can see that the benefits of seeing what’s there are priceless… People who make fast and good decisions, go further in life.
Success loves speed. ((Risky career moves, what-was-I-thinking relationships, and just about every ’80s fashion trend–most of us have made bad decisions in our lives. And while we’re supposed to learn from our mistakes, living with the outcome of a bad decision doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re immune to repeating it.
Getting caught up in the “what worked before” mindset or being too impressed with your own success are common pitfalls.“
When J.K. Rowling sent the first Harry Potter book to U.S. and U.K. publishers, they all turned it down because they knew what wouldn’t work: What didn’t work was a book of that size. What didn’t work was a book for boys. What didn’t work was fantasy, ” Hertz says. “What it took was a new director who was new to publishing to buy the book.”
Look at your history.
SOURCE: click to continue reading People who make fast and good decisions, go further in life. Success loves speed
You tend to look at the world in black and white terms. This or the opposite…
But often what you think is the opposite is not…
My current favorite book, 46 rules of Genius, says:
“Rule 24 (of Genius)
“People tend to view simplicity and complexity as opposites. But this isn’t strictly true. The enemy of simplicity isn’t complexity, but disorder. And the enemy of complexity is also disorder. While complexity seeks order through addition, simplicity seeks it through subtraction.
“A goal of design is to drive out disorder by maximizing both simplicity and complexity. In most designed products, what we respond to best is a rich, layered experience (complexity) combined with ease of use, ease of understanding, or ease of purchase (simplicity).
“Most people have a built-in bias toward addition instead of subtraction. For some reason, the concept of “more” comes naturally to us. Yet the innovator knows that the value of any design doesn’t lie in how much is piled on, but how much is discarded. More is more, but less is better.
SOURCE: click to continue reading Instead of asking what is the opposite, why don’t you ask a different question?
We are all entrepreneurs, potentially.
The principle is: an entrepreneur is someone who remakes the world in the image of themselves.
There are a few problems we’ll have with this principle:
The main problem is that we have no idea who we are, how we are, what we really like, what are our strengths, what are our weaknesses.
We keep ourselves so busy with irrelevant stuff, that we never have a chance to see how we are when things are relevant.
Back in 1988, I started a magazine. I was one person. Sold ads, designed the ads, wrote the articles, distributed the magazines to stores that gave them away for free.
I made enough money the first month to live on, and did that for quite a few months… but…
SOURCE: click to continue reading Chances are: you don’t know who you are, and you don’t know what would really please you
In the 67 steps there is a method to make decisions using a calculator. ((Step 15 in the 67 steps))
Nine out of ten students skip it, the one that does it does it shabbily. Students won’t do it or won’t do it right even after I send them back to do it.
Why? Because the method uses questions that you don’t want to ask. Why? Because they upset the apple cart.
I read a book, years ago, by a therapist, for people who can’t make a decision to leave or to leave… ((Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum)) The one question that no one asked before was: when it was the best: was it really good?
I was in a relationship when I first read that book, so I asked the question and looked. And then looked at every relationship I had ever had. I found that even when it was the best, it wasn’t really good… for me. As hard as it was to accept that, I decided that I am not going to live on crumbs any more… I am happiest alone, married to my life-purpose… I left and I have been a lot happier ever since.
A new question is a change in perspective…
SOURCE: click to continue reading Change your perspective… asking questions that upset your status quo
I found, during the call, that I still have a non-functioning segment in my brain, that is cold… dead? Muscle test says it’s a part of the brain I could coax back to work, if I put the work into it.
That is me. I do what I need to do to grow, every day. And some days I grow, others I don’t… but I DO WHAT I NEED TO DO TO GROW!
What do YOU do?
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You now know where you are, how your brain works, to what degree you are barking up the wrong tree, to what degree what you see is not what is there. You may also know the causes: your hydration is off, your diet is off, your attitude is off.
So you decide to do something about it… but… no change… or temporary change only.
Why wouldn’t it work for you? It worked for me! It works for others!
This is what I’d like to talk about in this post. I even had some insight this morning. Maybe because I had the brain cleansing? I would not be surprised…
Please don’t discount brain health.
Everyone jabbers about mind-health, but unless your brain is healthy, unless it is a high performance machine, you are not going to be able to see, identify correctly, and correct.
SOURCE: click to continue reading I did the energetic brain cleansing webinar I promised yesterday
I have been “harping” on this with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest…
If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff… what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference… in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.
I even used to use this capacity (oh, forgot to say, it’s a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category…
For you everything is the same as everything else
Universally missing capacity… I found out. The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees.
SOURCE: click to continue reading Principle: Make your plane to land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather
A distinction is a new way of looking at the world. Really new.
It is also like a framework, like a whole punched into a solid wall… when you look through that hole, what you see is unfamiliar.
You can look at the world and suddenly that distinction starts to show up everywhere.
I was talking about the fixed mindset just now, in the article just published, and suddenly, all these pictures are telling the same story, wholly or partially… something I would never would have guessed without actually looking through the distinction: the hole punched in the wall.
here you go:
SOURCE: click to continue reading A distinction redraws your map or reality
Thinking that your social status, your finances are a reflection of your value is a myth that can render you, your status, your finances low, if you are not born privileged.
I just read an article about the myth of meritocracy and how it hurts kids of color, in The Atlantic, and I found an answer to my question: why my Black students don’t do as well in life as one would expect of them, based on their abilities. Or women. Or other minorities… Or just regular people brought up mainly by women. ((I mean it… and I don’t care if you hate me for it. Women are responsible for 50% of the ills of the world, while men are only responsible for 20% of the ills… I know it looks to you different, but you don’t see… your map of reality is way off))
This post will get at this issue from different vantage points, so hold onto your hat… or you’ll lose it.
You may remember the principle that made T. Harv Eker a millionaire?
If things are not going well, it is a sign that something you don’t know.
Now, what he doesn’t say is that the thing that you don’t see is profound. It is a principle. Or a distinction. Something big.
SOURCE: click to continue reading If your life isn’t working as well as you think it should…
This article has long been in the making.
It’s about our inability to tell what is the cause of something. Or even if there is a causal relationship between two things…
Between tithing and a sudden windfall… between lying and breaking your leg… between eating peanuts and feeling better/worse… Is there a cause and effect relationship there? If you pray: do people get better? If you spend time on a reiki person’s table… do you feel better because someone paid attention to you, or was there even energy there? Questions, questions and no answers.
If it were just you and other consumers of information who don’t know the answers, that would be fine with me, but with the proliferation of the internet, and with everyone and their brother writing, publishing, opinionating, sounding off, repeating things and their opposite, our sense of who to trust, what to believe is at an all-time low.
It used to be that we trusted doctors, and we died feeling that the doctor did their best… and their best was not a match to the task.
And we were right. We did the best we knew to do.
SOURCE: click to continue reading Can you be well, can you get well if you don’t know if something is true or not?