I have written a bunch of articles about deserving. For several reasons, the most important is this: deserving is a tricky word… Is it a beingness verb, maybe adjective or is it a true verb, doingness? I hope I can hold your attention through a few articles exploring this ever so important word… Once you get it, you’ll know what to do. Because you cannot get what you want without deserving it… And if you do get what you want without deserving, what you wanted will kill you… Sounds like a puzzle… it’s a principle.
This article is a year and a half old…
I find myself angry.
On one hand you want. A lot of things.
On the other hand you think it should be handed to you. Because… why? You don’t know. But you see other people who have it and surely there is no difference you can see between them and you… and in many ways you seem to yourself better than those people who have what you want. You are nicer, prettier, maybe smarter, and yet… they are getting what you want, not you.
What you don’t see: you can’t see, what is invisible to you…
It is what is under the hood.
Ultimately, if I compared you to a lion, or maybe even a cat… you would come up short.
For the most part a lion or a cat can see what is important to them. Certainly there are cats that choose the wrong time to cross the street, and get hit by a fast car… but this doesn’t happen all that often.
Whereas you can’t see all the things you need to see to get what you want.
In fact you see only a tiny fragment of what you need to see. The rest: you fill out with your imagination.
I know you think I am judgmental. This is exactly what I am talking about. You don’t know the difference between judgment and assessment… I bet you don’t even know the second word… ((assessment: the evaluation or estimation of the nature, quality, or ability of someone or something. On a scale… a method to see extrinsic or intrinsic value. Judgment is a yes/no tool, a systemic value tool, to make considered yes/no decisions or come to sensible conclusions. If this doesn’t make sense to you, then please read my other article on the three levels of value.))
In life you get what you deserve. Actively deserve. Meaning what you can and do work for… the value you create, in the world.
But because the human world is a lot more complicated than a cat’s world, you need to be able to recognize and correctly use, a lot more things than the cat.
You need to be able to recognize…
Who is a friend, and who is a foe.
What is useful and for what.
What works and doesn’t.
What is valuable for others and what isn’t.
What other people want… from you.
This last one is very tricky: you think you know. But you are way way off…
Actually, you are way off in every single area of life.
And I am angry.
You say: but somehow you earned a roof over your head and three meals a day! And yes, you have.
Our welfare system has set a rule that even if you