There is an arc to this article… I arrive to the answer after a journey to it, in the second half…
What is the reason that some people learn and grow, while others stagnate?
I read an interesting sentence in an old marketing book:
“Generally we don’t decide we want to get married and then pick the person who seems to be the most desperate to get married and propose to them.”
In that document, TheMissingChapter, the author talks about selecting a business to pursue, but what he says applies to any aspect of life.
If you are desperate for money… banks won’t loan you any.
If you are desperate for love… it will elude you.
If you are desperate for success… you’ll make all the wrong decisions.
Desperation is a very poor advisor, it makes you incoherent.
The worst mistake a service provider can make is cater to desperate people.