authenticityI am a foreigner. I learned the English words, one by one, but I started to learn the being associated, the being meant by some words when I was 38 and started the work of transformation.

The first being word I looked into was generosity. I was still a beginner at distinguishing.

Distinguishing is the art of precision, what it is and what it isn’t. What it isn’t distinguishes something a lot better than trying to explain what it is. Interesting, isn’t it?

I had to learn the hard way what generosity isn’t, how “generosity” can and does make enemies of friends, destroys you in the process, while it builds your ego to sky high.

The second being word was authenticity. Not much can be found anywhere about that being, because it is near extinct, because authenticity flies in the face of what society wants of you: society wants you to suppress who you really are, and pretend to be part of the group… to want what “they” want, not what you want.

8 Replies to “Authenticity”

  1. Hi Sophie, originally, I wanted to ask you a question about clearing and then I read this article. I hope I will have a stronger question as a result: If clearing involves owning what you have been holding on to and stating it to another or journaling about it, if that is correct, can I achieve authenticity through this practice? Actually, I have an additional question: (I’m sure I’m looking for a comfortable way to tackle this) How do you determine what is considered PUBLICLY owning?-a stranger you tell, a priest, facebook? Thank you


    1. Baheej, you can’t achieve authenticity, but you can increase your authenticity.
      The article I am sharing here, the part I didn’t write, is the way to start: if you are doing something you would not want others to know: stop doing it. For example, I know a guy who chews tobacco. He is ashamed about it, would never want anyone to know it, but won’t stop. You either say: I do that, and if you don’t like it then f… you, or stop doing it. If you say things, think things you would not want anyone else to know about you, then stop doing it, or own up to it to the person who would be most upset about it… girl friend? business partner? family?


  2. Thank you Sophie,,, am one hour & 10 minutes into Werner Erhart’s 3 hour speech on relationship…. ohhh dear!
    what you’ve been saying all along.
    never even heard of him before, a bit of an eye opener.


  3. your answer to Baheej question is really helpful to me, have been pondering that for quite a while. like the ‘fraud’ part of me and how I am with one person and different with another,,, not exactly authentic eh? there is one person in this block that doesn’t give a stuff what anyone thinks of her and she does whatever she wants, but also takes responsibility for it. she steps on many toes, but at the same time is well liked even though she changes with the weather! I have resisted being controlled by her, but secretly I want to be more like her,,, duh! back to the drawing board once again.
    thanks Sophie.


  4. I also just had the thought that I want everyone else to be ‘authentic’ but not me! I can accept whatever they are/be/do,,,,, but not me 😦


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